Today I had a really great debate with the family about the Hmong traditional ways verses the Hmong modern ways now which is more towards the American ways. I totally disagree with a few members of the family which thinks that men have all the power and rights over women to do whatever they like. For example, men have the right to have more than one wife. I think its wrong to have more than one wife period weather you are a King or someone that have the power to do anything. People should only be committed to one person and only one. If they want to be with other people they should let the other person know it before and end that relationship before moving on to the next.
I also disagree about the fact that men should make the decisions weather its the right or wrong decisions. I think that all the decisions should be make by husband and wife/kids as a whole, groups of people, decisions base on the laws and facts, etc... I'm always a believer that two is better than one, three is better than two and so on because what you see is not what everyone see. Usually, best decisions are best when you make a decisions with a group of people that a lot of people agree upon.
I disagree with most the issues that was being debate tonight because I'm more modernize than a lot of the older generations in the family. I was raised and grew up in the United States most of my life and I see both side of the traditional ways and the more modern ways. I like to mix in with the traditional and modern ways and used that to make the best decisions out of it to make it fair for everyone in the family. I can't just take one side and not the other, make one happy and not the other. I'm a very fair person when it comes to making decisions because I know and understand where everyone is coming from. That's why I disagree with some from the traditional ways and the modern ways.

Tai Lee